Julianne Moore has warned that people don’t fall in love as much as they think they will during their lives.

The 54-year-old star is still on a high after being named best actress for her role as an Alzheimer’s sufferer in Still Alice at last week’s Oscars ceremony. After triumphing she explained that her husband Bart Freundlich, 45, has been her biggest supporter and told her she’d take home the Academy Award as soon as he saw the flick. Now Julianne has spoken about what love means to her. ‘I think love is rare. It’s one of those things you think when you’re ten or 13 that you’re going to fall in love a million times, but you don’t fall in love that often as an adult. So when you do, it’s a big deal and you have to recognise it,’ she told British magazine Hello! This is Julianne’s second marriage, following her union with John Gould Rubin.

They tied the knot in 1986 but separated in 1993, with the actress since explaining she was too young when she made the commitment and didn’t really want it. She married Bart in 2003, although they started dating in 1996, and she’s learnt a lot about relationships along the way.

‘It’s about communication, being able to laugh with somebody and have experiences together that you both enjoy. All of those things are really important. The things you do while you are dating are the things you do to sustain a relationship. It’s all peaks and valleys,’ she said.

Julianne and Bart have two children together and family life is something that means a lot to the actress. She always knew she wanted to be a mother and although it’s a juggling act, she hopes to encourage others not to be afraid of working and being a mom. ‘I feel extremely fortunate that I’m able to have both. I really, really wanted to have a family and I always wanted to be able to act and the fact that it has worked out makes me feel so grateful,’ she said. ‘When I hear people say, ‘Oh I don’t think I can do it,’ I always want to encourage them and say, ‘Yeah, you can. It’s one life, don’t deny yourself.’‘