Actress Rosamund Pike - starring at your local multiplex in the film adaptation of Gone Girl, the best-selling thriller by American writer Gillian Flynn - said something rather wise this week. ‘People have ridiculous expectations of a mate,’ she told reporters. ‘In my grandmother’s day, you wouldn’t expect your husband to fulfil the same need in you as your sister, or girlfriends, or colleagues at work. You’d have different needs met by different people. Now we want all our needs met by one person, and I don’t believe that’s possible.’ With one simple observation, Ms Pike has pinpointed all that’s wrong with romantic notions of marriage. Because, let’s face it, she’s right. How can one person possibly fulfil all our hopes and dreams? And yet that is what we tell ourselves, time and again. No wonder the divorce rate in this country is so high. We are all - women especially - susceptible to the idea. It’s not our fault.–AFP