What is this life if, full of care,

We have no time to stand and stare.

A poor life this is if, full of care,

We have no time to stand and stare.

These are the first and the last verse of William Davies’ poem ‘Leisure’. The whole poem is very beautiful but the mentioned verses convey the whole meaning that our life is full of worries and we are so busy in our routine matters that we miss lot of pleasures which we can enjoy. Tension and busy schedules have made the lives of modern man miserable. To please ourselves we have devised many ways like dinning out, going somewhere for picnic, watching cinema etc. Some people even avoid these pleasures and wait for happy events like Eids, marriage ceremonies etc to make merry. In this way we have made our lives miserable and pathetic. In fact we people have forgotten to live our lives. We have no time left for ourselves. We have forgotten that nature has spread lot things around us with which we can entertain ourselves. We have also stopped cherishing the beautiful relations with our families and friends. This age of information and technology has made our lives so busy and our minds are so preoccupied with things to do that we have stopped to live. In our daily chores we are no more different than robots. But those people make difference who observe things around them and seek pleasure from things happening around them. Such people don’t wait some big occasions to enjoy and to make merry, rather they cherish every moment of their lives. These are the blessed people.

This is the gist and the lesson of ‘Better to Wink at Life’ and Kamaran Ahmad, the author, is one of those blessed people who cherish little pleasures of their lives. The author seeks happiness either he is sitting among his friends, having tea break with his office colleagues after laborious work or taking her better half for shopping. Life seems smooth for him and even witty remarks passed by his friends about him doesn’t offend rather become a source of joy for him. Kamaran Ahmad shares some of those pleasures which he gets in his hectic routine of life and all the observations which become a source of permanent happiness for him in this book.

The author describes different incidents and situations which he faced in his routine life. Even the odd and difficult situation couldn’t make him confuse rather he brought a positive aspect in that. Not only this, but he has also mentioned those incidents in which his wit was outwitted by some of his colleague or wife. For example, in ‘Pillar of pride’ the author and his office colleagues were sharing their weaknesses. The author in a bid to appear humorous said, “Of all the things I have lost, I miss my mind the most.” One of his colleagues promptly said, “But I wonder, how you could possibly lose anything you never had in the first place!” Similarly, in ‘Not insured’ he writes that once he was going somewhere with his wife on his brother’s company-maintained car and in his festive mood he drove fast. Observing the reckless driving his wife cautioned him on which the author remarked, “Nothing to worry, the car is company-maintained.” And her wife replied, “Yes, I agree the car is company-maintained, but don’t forget we are not!”

‘In revelation’, the author told a lie with her spouse about some matter which her wife judged at once. On her true judgment, he inquired how she was able to judge that. Her wife answered, “It’s very simple, whenever you tell a lie you become more good-looking.”

The writer has good command on giving picturesque description. In “A hen-party’, he describes a lady in this way that the whole picture comes before the eyes of the reader. He describes: “At a hen-party with usual setting – women jabbering incessantly – the trivial banter, a young lady exhibiting glamorous confidence with honey-brown hair and caramel-flamboyant dress smugly....”

In ‘Mother’s Day’, he writes, “On Mother’s Day my elder son who is in his early teens and seems to have a degree in naughtiness was in quiet-gentle mood and softly said, ‘Mom you told me that angels are in heaven. If it’s true then what are you doing here?’ ‘Looking after the devil!’ my younger daughter promptly replied whilst lifting a hand in a mock salute.”

The writer is a deep observer and some of his observations can be quoted as a quote. For example, in “Leg pieces and...” he writes while describing the scene of a party: “Most of females were good from far and one could say not too far from good.”

The book is brimmed with multitude of inner-voices, judgmental, rebellious, naughty, satirical, farcical, comical, witty and punned comments and situations of life. It not only amuses its readers but is also a source of inspiration to make their lives worth living. The reader consciously or unconsciously remembers the similar situations which he faced in his own life and how he reacted at that time thus compels him to make a fair analysis. The incidents guide the readers that funny situation, comic happenings and amusing occurrences are means of momentary escape from the grimmer realities of life. A positive attitude during low moments of life can bring normalcy and can lifts our spirits up. The same attitude can also turn our monotonous or offending moments into happy ones. Those people who often complain about their tense relationship with their spouse can make a difference. It is just a matter of understanding and perceiving things differently. People should not be negative at once rather they should find the good aspect of those moments which he feels bad. Instead of preserving bad memories of your past you should compile good and happy memories and that is only possible when you find the positive aspect in every happenings of your life.

Title: Better to wink at life

Author: Kamran Ahmad

Pages: 150

Price: Rs. 300

Publisher: Fact publications