Akif Abdulamir

  • TI was not aware of the hands of the clock pushing forward until the sun set on me. I parted the blinds and watched the first neon street lights blink. Suddenly, two cars passed by, with their indicators flashing. At a distance, the sun had disappeared in the horizon and the redness in the sky was ...

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  • TIt is easy to blame stress for everything that has gone wrong in your life. You usually try to find a scapegoat and most of the time you hold responsible people close to you for your problems. Of course, it is hard to lift yourself above the gloom we associate with depression. But it is stupid to ...

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  • TFasting is all about renewing your faith. It is another holy month of Ramazan and Muslims around the world reflect on their achievements in the past 12 months. It is the month of blessing for the people with the right attitude. Let me elaborate, some people go through the ritual of fasting in a ...

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  • TThere are no legitimate businesses anymore, just business. The presence of God is everywhere, but many times, the loud jingle of money dropping in the cash till is louder than the prayers that come out of our mouths.Do you think doctors always wish that someone would fall ill so they can increase ...

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  • TThe office looked more like a palace reception than a lounge of a bank. As I sat there, I expected a king to make an appearance in his majestic robe, but instead a Chief Executive Officer (CEO) strolled in, without even glancing at the occupants of the room. He glared at his Secretary, mumbled ...

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  • TThere are people, who want to make an immediate impression when entering a room. However, they do that for the wrong reasons.They could range from loud bores to flashy dressers, all looking to make a personal statement.The problem is that they cannot make it personal enough. In a little while, it ...

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  • TI was standing in a queue waiting to pay in a busy grocery shop when a little girl pushed her way to the front. The cashier stopped what he was doing to attend to her. She waved the ice cream stick and asked how much it cost.When she was given the answer, she looked back at a lady, who was taking a ...

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  • TI arrived late at a business management seminar. The room was bejewelled with the cream of top business people in the country. I felt small when I entered, but the cloak of journalism that I wore gave me confidence. As the British lady spoke on the podium, I wondered what these top shots sitting at ...

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  • T Do you do something important by waiting for the right moment? And when do you know when the right moment comes? For that matter, is there a right moment? These questions are not simple to answer. Most people would wait all their lives for the right time to start doing something and that moment ...

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  • TI know life can be a bit of a struggle, but we don’t have to compete it like Olympics champions. Some people have to be at the starting block ready for the race and it is always reluctant friends, who are forced into the competition. It is very annoying to receive a call from someone asking ...

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  • TI have one problem and it is that I consume every word people say. The reason I do that is because I sift through words and try to find some clues. The words people say reflect the status of their minds. As I grow older, the fascination of going through people’s minds without being obtrusive ...

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  • TMany people love to hear the word “sorry”. It feels good when somebody apologises. I guess, it puts one in control. However, the word also stops someone from moving on and may cause resentment and pain. It may also open up old wounds that are too deep to heal. The word separates parents ...

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  • T The old lady swayed a little as if a strong wind was threatening to sweep her away. But she was in the comfort of her own house and the smooth wall provided the support she needed. It was only momentarily before she recovered and started walking steadily to her armchair. She explained she was ...

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  • TI have received a call from someone I have often thought about, but lost touch with for many years. He came over to my house much older than when I last saw him.He is now heavier, much wiser and with an unmistakable weight on his shoulders, that comes with family responsibility. “You ...

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  • TThe problem with success is that you need to make a lot of money to achieve that distinction. Gone are the days when a person would retire and said he had a successful career as a professional without having any money in the bank. I met an old school mate and I enquired about his teaching job. I ...

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  • TI often get drawn to the simple lives of Asian labourers. I was never sure why until a couple of months ago when I wandered in a small labour camp. I was looking for a carpenter to replace my door and it was the only place I knew I could find one in a hurry. About half a dozen, skinny and gaunt ...

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  • TI guess inner conflicts change one’s personality. Severe trauma and an element of suppression can dictate the mood and even take control of your life. Why am I telling you all this? Just recently, I got to see at work a very disturbed mind, yet, very sane in most ways. Shock and distress have ...

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  • TWhen my family was away last week, I thought I should do something different to pass the hours. I searched through my old books, trying to find the one that I had not really had the time to read. While rummaging through the pile, I was surprised to realise that my taste in reading has changed over ...

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  • TPeople are very much alike, but how we express our thoughts distinguishes us from each other. We err when we fail to translate our thoughts into words intended to please others. But words and thoughts alone do not separate people. Thoughts are linked with gestures - bad or good - that convey a ...

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  • TWe have to be careful with the advice we give our children. We all want our children to succeed in life, but we should not advise them to gain success at any cost.One can easily spot talent in young children. While this talent should be nurtured carefully, parents should refrain from exerting ...

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  • TIt occurred to me only last week that the holy institution of marriage is mostly supported by a woman. Men enter it with different objectives although we may not like to admit it.Husbands tend to loosen the knot when the pressure grips the nerves, while wives like to tighten it to tidy up the loose ...

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  • TSomeone died suddenly last month leaving a lot of hostility behind. He was kind, wealthy and charitable during his lifetime, but his family accused him of being cruel and mean in death.He left most of his estate to people he thought needed money most and that infuriated his children. He anticipated ...

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  • TThe relationship between animals and their owners is sometimes complex and even perplexing. And so is the relationship between a woman and her husband. Don’t scratch your head in confusion - there is actually a connection between the two situations.When my elderly neighbour had to leave her ...

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  • TI was about to delete an email message when something about the subject made me pause. It said “tired” and I looked at the sender’s address, but it did not mean anything to me. I was almost sure it was one of the junks I receive all the time or even a virus that would infect my ...

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  • TI was at a party when I came across a person, who alleged that he had a lot of insider information about other people’s business. According to him, the wind just “carried the conversations” to his ears. I jokingly replied that the “wind” was certainly a lot friendlier ...

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  • TAs more warnings continue to warn members of the public about bogus financial transactions, we let ourselves get caught by crafty conmen seeking to make a quick buck from our carelessness.A friend came back from the Far East to find himself more than 3,000 riyals in arrears. He first blamed his ...

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  • TI stopped my car when I saw a friend standing on the roadside looking desperately at his watch. He was relieved to see me and asked for a lift. Time was running against him and he had to be somewhere else in half-an-hour. The trouble was that he was so worked up that he forgot to tell me where he ...

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  • TOne does not have to be a great scholar to teach another person a great lesson.I learned mine in a weather-beaten environment where sweat and hard work was the order of the day. I learned it from a barefooted man, who could not spell his own name and earned his living with his unskilled hands.It ...

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  • TWhen you don’t get a good night’s sleep, the rest of the day can turn out to be a complete nightmare. I have firsthand experience of what havoc sleep deprivation can play.I vividly remember a particular day when I woke up with a splitting headache after a restless night in bed. To ...

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  • TThese days, there are people everywhere who are eager to make a statement. I guess it is due to the pressures of life that people feel the need to get noticed. At its worst, the desire for acceptance blunts our decisions and at its best it makes us look like fools. And so, we swing between the two ...

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